Good Grief!
Well! Isn’t this just the cat’s meow!
How many times have we, as humans, thought we’d outsmarted “Mother Nature?”
Hmmm….
- DDT (Insects adapted).
- Splicing insecticide into plants (Insects adapted, we didn’t).
- Baby formula (Never as perfect as nature).
- Antidepressants for grief.
Okay — so we know the health problems caused by the first three. All you have to do is look it up on the internet. If you don’t believe me, listen to Aristotle:
I’ve lost two of my furry family in the past few months. Yes, I’m very sad about it. That sadness is called “Grief.” Grief is natures way of walking you through the darkness of loss so that you can find your way into the world again…naturally.
The worst thing I can do is try to throw a pill at it.
So then, barring shortcuts that would mean taking meds made in China (a country that has cornered the manufacture of pharmaceuticals, hates us and prevents us from doing quality control of their products), how do I cope with grief?
- NaNoWriMo. I throw as much of it as possible into a novel.
- Petting Coon Cat’s grieving brother.
- Allowing myself to cry until I can’t cry any longer.

Where is my brother? Please hold me.
I’ve had a favorite puppy and kitty who were the stars that shined in my sky of life.
I’ve listened to people say, “It was only an animal.”
Humans are animals, too. We’re mammals with small differences in our genome that distinguishes us from other mammals..
I’ve listened to people say, “You don’t know what it’s like to lose a (insert human family description here).”
The size of body that a spirit inhabits matters not, I grieve for my 4-footed companions as greatly as I grieved when my children’s father, a loving husband, died of a lingering illness when I was 33, when my father who passed away suddenly a year later, and when my mom died only 7 years later from sun stroke.
That’s enough blogging for the day. It’s time to write more for NaNoWriMo, pet a cat, and continue my mantra, “Stay busy and cry when you need to!”
That’s the best therapy.
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I HATE people who say it’s only an animal! They were family, we loved them, and miss them now they’re no longer with us. It hurts. A lot! Time does not heal, it only numbs. We are allowed to grieve however and for as long as we need. ❤
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That’s how I feel about it, too.♥
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‘Only’ and animal? Grr…
Grief is grief, loss is loss… love is love. You can’t quantify any of them.
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I agree. That one always gets me hopping mad, too.
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I can imagine..
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My cat is my little soul buddy. ❤️
But there’s nothing wrong with formula when things don’t work out with breastfeeding. My girls were formula-fed and I’m sure glad that there was something to feed them! They are happy, healthy, successful young women ~ one with her own baby now. 😀
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I was born during a time when women were discouraged from breast feeding, and if that was the way animals did it and humans were above all that. Some women were content with formula, others resented the cultural push not to breast feed.
Then it was found that the contents of nature’s blend couldn’t be beat. My mom was unable to do it the natural way, I was plagued with colic and it ended up that I was allergic to the formula. I had to survive on goats milk.
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Sorry for your loss, Joelle.
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Thanks for your kind words. It’s a part of life, and part of healing is having kind people around who care.
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❤
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I am so sorry for your loss, and I wish I had better words to say. But when I am grieving, the last thing I want to hear is some bromide about why it’s not as bad as all that, because losing someone you love is exactly as bad as all that. I salute you for facing it without blunting yourself with pills (although it’s fair to take something to help you sleep every now and then, if grief is stopping you from getting the healing rest you need). Pour all you can into Nano and be extremely kind to yourself.
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It is clear that you’ve experience more than your share of grief, and you know the place a mind goes when it happens. Thanks for the words of wisdom.
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I so sorry for your loss. Damn thst Mother Nature, we got issues of our own. Maybe you should visit a shelter? I’m sure there are other problem fur-kids to call your own? And yes, busywork always a good thing. Cheers,H
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OBCC becomes VERY jealous when a new member of our furry family is introduced. When the Tiny Terror came to our doorstep at the age of 6 weeks, and we took him in, OBCC would hiss at me and bare his teeth when I came near him. If he’d yelled out, “You betrayed me!” it couldn’t have been clearer.
Now I face another betrayal of his trust. He’s getting very close to me and is depending upon me for love and support. But 3 months ago I made arrangements to visit my daughter out-of-state during Thanksgiving and my lap won’t be there for him.
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Losing something you love is never ‘only….’, it’s a piece of your heart whether it be human or animal. Hugs xx
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Very true.
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The photo of brother coon-cat saying …Where Is My Brother. Please Let Me. Brought tears to my eyes. 😿💔😿
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It does so to me everytime he looks at me like that…and when I look at that picture I always say, “awww.”
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Yes, medication is not the answer to grief, as it only postponse it.
Grieving an animal is just as important. But I do not place it in the same category or grieving level as humans with whom I can speak, who go to university and built things.
Unless we are vegetarians it woukd be weird to say we grieve the same with animals and then eat a lamb kebab.
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I can eat meat and appreciate the sacrifice of one being to feed another.
I think of it this way: If there are beings in the universe with 10 times our intelligence, would it be weird for them to grieve our passing (if they loved one of us) in the same way they would grieve one of their own?
I look into the eyes of my dogs and see beings with feelings. And I grieve over another animal (after all, humans are animals), one who can build love instead of things.
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You see and that’s where the danger lies, you see humans as animals, if humans are animals, but speaks against slaughtering humans for consumption?
You contradict your perception, and mix it all into one pot. I grieve pets, too, care for dogs like they’re human. But my grieve for humans, especially close loved obes can never match that of a dog or cat.
As humans, our memories are shaped more with people than pets, except we are lonely or cut out humans.
If humans are animals, would you eat a human and grieve longer for a pet?
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I consider humans as animals, but I’ve been told the meat is much too stringy and greasy. I don’t want to make my animals sick by feeding them people.
The problem most humans have is the arrogance to assume that we’re somehow better than other animals.
There are many humans who have the same mindset that would allow the Gulf of Mexico to cut corners when finding oil and poison an entire ecosystem. I don’t consider that an achievement nor do I consider people more than the mammals we are.
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I get the first part (clever)
and I get the second part. (wise)
But the third one is out of this world! (you lost me there!)
Kind regards,
A Meat Eating Animal Loving Human Kick-Butting Fellow Person!
P.S. Take the sun glasses off, you’ve got a lot to share.
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LOL!
Wish those were sun glasses, but they’re not. Those are my regular glasses. I’m extremely light sensitive. My passport was taken wearing those glasses and you have to have a medical reason to do it
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Why the “LOL”.
What’s your game?
I show you my back, you show me sunglasses?
Give me a break!
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NOIR 43’s. Think “Maxine” cartoons.
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Okey Dokey Mickey Mouse.
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I feel your pain. Having a huge cry helps, in spite of everyone making us feel like crying is a bad thing. It releases some of the pain of grief and is so much more effective than a pill 🙂
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100% in agreement!
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