RANT WARNING: OKAY! I HAVE TO SAY IT!
I am so D@%*#d tired of so-called equality in education!

Mom……………………………………………………& me
When my mother was 17, she graduated from high school.
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She was in the minority.
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In 1930, if you graduated from high school it was quite an accomplishment. By the time she’d finished middle school, she had learned to read, write, and solve math problems. In high school, she learned how to be a secretary, and that included shorthand.
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My father had a 5th grade education, working as a piano mover for much of his early life. When he had a taxi business and a moving company, mom kept the books. He entrusted every cent he made into her care.
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My dad used to say she could take a nickel and squeeze it until it sh…..uh, screamed.
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I once asked her, “Why do you want to stay home when you could go to work and make more than daddy?”
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I don’t remember her exact reply, so here’s the synopsis: “I’m CEO of my home and your father is the Board of Directors. I love what I do, and I don’t want an 8 to 5 job.”
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It took years for me to understand that being a CEO isn’t all glamour; parts of the job greatly resemble cleaning a toilet.
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When I was 17, I left high school with the ability to write a sentence and a talent for playing piano. I understood the basics of math but my handwriting was terrible and my essays were sub-par. I’d never read a book that I could remember and learned by listening to other people talk to me about what was in the books I’d struggled to read.
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That worked well in high school — not so well in college.
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After graduating from 12 years of hell, there was no word for dyslexia. No help, either.
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My sister, an English major, finished college in 3 years. I was in college for two and dropped out with a D average. She worked as a middle-school teacher for a year and was ever so happy to return for her master’s degree in linguistics.
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After my failed attempt at college, I spent 3 months at home where mom guilted, prodded, and pulled me to a typewriter to polish my typing skills. I moved to another state, close to my sister, and landed my first real job; a secretary at a university desperate for clerical help.
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After three days, it was painfully evident I had no concept of what a secretary was supposed to do. My saving grace? There is something to be said for work ethic.
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I had crashed my sister’s Vespa into a rock pile, fractured my wrist, and went back to work a week later. During my 6-week recuperation, while typing with a cast up past my elbow, I studied how business letters were constructed and asked for the advice of the secretary who worked next to me. By the time my cast was taken off, my abilities had greatly improved. Fortunately, I didn’t know how close they had been to firing me the first week.
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It helped that I worked for a professor of physical therapy who, after a year, stated, “I think you have minimal brain damage.”
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That was the term for dyslexia in the 1970’s.
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She used this “asset” to her full advantage, often asking me to take the tests that she was going to be giving her students. If I could make a C on it, everyone in her class was capable of making an A.
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Over a span of several decades, the term morphed into “learning disability.” My sister had her own business teaching effective business writing and grammar to large corporations. During my late 20’s through my early 40’s, she helped me develop some skills I should have learned in high school; skills that take much longer to master for someone with dyslexia.
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She was there for both my children, too. My son was able to go to Spain as an exchange student, an experience that led him to where he is today; an author, poet, and full professor who provides a stellar education in Spanish and Portuguese studies.
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When I moved to the area I live in now, my daughter attended a high school where her science teacher told her that plexi was a form of glass. The next year, I used part of her college fund to send her to a private school. The “education” she’d received in rural Florida was so horrendous, she had to make up two years of work in one.
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That’s where my sister came to the rescue yet again.
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My daughter moved to another state and finished her last year in top-rated high school. She eventually went to a local college and earned a B.A. while living with my sister the first few years, and earned a master’s degree in a city 2 hours away from her.
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My children were fortunate.
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Which brings me back to the topic of substandard education.
It’s not just in rural towns anymore, it’s a nationwide epidemic.
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I dropped out of college the first time for a reason — I wasn’t prepared to learn. No one, at that time, had thought to take my money, give me a substandard education, saddle me with a huge student loan, and send me out into the world to fail.
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When I returned to college, I graduated at the age of 36 with a 3.3 grade average.
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Then, I had to find a job matching my qualifications. That is a story to be told some other time. All I’ll say about it is that I moved to another state with a new husband shortly after graduation and found that a 4-year college degree is the equivalent of a high school diploma in California. If you’re wondering why tent cities are epidemic in California, that’s one clue.
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After moving back to Florida, I found a job serving people with developmental disabilities and have excelled in that field for the past 25 years.
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It wasn’t easy, but I had both the tools and the support to succeed.
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Fast forward to NOW.
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I am HEARTSICK at the number of good, caring, kind people graduating from high school, and from college, who cannot write an intelligible sentence and who have no concept of how to add/subtract/multiply/divide.
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It’s like a mass-induced dyslexia…
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…and it is nothing short of criminal to send a young adult into the work world without the skills to succeed.
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This problem requires a solution far more complex than changing the educational system from the ground up.
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It requires people like my sister who are willing to take the time to mentor.
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It requires that we demand excellence in education,
and abandon the concept of participation awards.
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And for God’s sake, we have computers now. Use spell check!
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I’m sure you can come up with more solutions, and you are welcome to list them in the reply section on this blog.
Bravo.
There was a time in my life when I was responsible for hiring entry-level employees. I was amazed at what I discovered. It’s almost criminal how unprepared for the real world the American high-school graduate is.
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Thanks for supporting my position. You are in a unique position to know what is happening.
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I had to take a second look. You look just like your mom. 🙂
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My sister looked more like my dad, but she had mom’s hair color. It’s one reason I chose to put the two pictures together. I looked more like mom. 🙂
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The same comments are heard here too, of students entering work places with very writing skills. It was never my fault as a teacher, as I was nothing short of brilliant….well I tried and I cared…
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The teachers I know at this time are very caring people hampered by lack of parental involvement, unions that reward mediocrity, restrictions that make it nearly impossible to discipline students, and a curriculum they have to teach.
One of the teachers in my senior year was supposed to be teaching us typing. She spent most of the time expounding on “progressive” thought. As kids, we were more than happy to get an easy grade.
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Such a huge issue and at times we forget the power simply being able to read gives us. I did several years of college after high school in the early ‘90’s and I’m disgusted people still consider with my ABI it is impressive to have compleated year 12(highest level of high school here in OZ) At the time there was no other option. Respect! Onward. Cheers,H
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I can’t imagine the pain of going through school and then not being able to have the ability to do what you once could to because of an ABI.
I had a friend who was in his first year of college. He was so brilliant he had a star-studded career ahead of him in computer sciences. He got drunk, fell 2 stories on his head, ended up in a coma for a while, and when he awakened he struggled to complete his degree.
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This rant should be required reading for every education major, every school administrator, every parent, and every voter.
And yes, I have one suggestion for a small step toward improving our desperate situation: You should run for school board! I’m totally serious. Either school board or state legislature. Florida needs you and your insights. I will repeat it. I am totally serious about you running for school board or state legislature.
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We just had our primaries for school board.
Getting elected around “these parts” means joining 3 organizations. Never, in my entire life, have I done well clubs or organizations.
However, Had I thought about doing so last year, I might have won against the school board member who was caught shoplifting. 🙂
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I hope you will think about it before the next election rolls around. 😎
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I forgot to mention that college professors who are serious about education state that the 18 years olds find it disconcerting to have parent come into meetings with their children as if they’re still in elementary school.
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Bravo! More employers should stand up and tell parents that their children are not employable when they graduate from the current educational system. High school students who can’t read or do simple math problems are not even capable of passing the college entrance exams.
The purpose of schools seems to be aimed more at keeping as many kids off the streets as possible than it is to educate them and prepare them to support themselves and their families.
As a production manager and a trainer on the production line, I have been disappointed not only with the level of education in recent graduates, but with their complete lack of work ethics. Because they receive a ‘free ride’ for showing up at school, regardless of participation, they expect the same from their employer.
I know this situation is not under the control of the teacher on the front line in the classroom. Changes will have to come through positive parental participation, an adjustment in the attitudes of those who make the classroom rules so that students who want an education have the opportunity to get one without classroom disruptions, and a change in the curriculum so that it actually has relevance in the real world.
I would gladly vote for someone committed to these changes.
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Me, too. 🙂
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This is my second attempt to leave a comment! But my first one was quite lengthy and I can’t be bothered to rewrite it all again. So, in other words, I agree. Lol
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Sorry you had problems leaving a comment. Thanks for taking so much time to leave a lengthy reply. I’ll look in my comments folder to see if it’s stuck there for some reason.
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P.S. congrats on getting your own domain name. Sorry I missed it until now. 🙂
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Thanks. 🙂
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“I don’t remember her exact reply, so here’s the synopsis: “I’m CEO of my home and your father is the Board of Directors. I love what I do, and I don’t want an 8 to 5 job.”
I love this and how she said it! Very good post and I cannot wait to read more.
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Thanks. 🙂
My mom loved her job as household manager. Neither my sister nor I inherited that gene.
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To each is their own because I deff didn’t get the gene, but good for you guys and keep doing you !!!!!
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The educational system, as it stands, does not take into account the human equation. As a third grade teacher, one year, I had a fidgety student who had difficulty writing, which I informed the specialized teachers, and I continued to work with him. I told his mother, the boy is smart. He sees things, as when we went on a field trip, many others don’t or don’t have the words. Don’t keep him from sports, or use it as a push to study harder. Just work with him at home as best you can, but he learns more from doing. I told the boy he could open his own business one day.
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No one should be pushed to go to college or succed in areas that aren’t their forte. There are plumbers or electricians who went to a technical school and make more than a college professor because they’re good at what they do. When it comes down to it, when your septic system isn’t working, the fact that your spouse has a doctorate in International Studies isn’t going to help. 🙂
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Absolutely. The information we garner is only as good as the source and how it applies to us. I went to college, used the information as best I could, but most of the information I’ve used over the years came outside the classroom: through jobs, hobbies, and research. Very little came in the classroom. *We have got to stop believing what others tell us, but deliberate within ourselves what we want to do, which often happens when children are very young, as a kindergarten girl once told me what she wanted to do when she grows up. Some will say, go to college, and the information may help you make the right decision. However, that’s only partly right as too much information may muddy the waters, and what a person may need to do is stick with what they already are interested in. If it requires school, after the decision is made, then a university may be part of the path. But no school is an answer unto itself. Too many have started their own businesses otherwise, or learned by working in the family business, or simply had a moment of clarity.
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I know of two people who went to trade school based on an assessment that their chosen field of study needed people. In both cases, it was a “half” lie. In one case, there was a demand, if you had years of experience. — In the other case, the person attending was over 50 and found out later that age was a factor in being passed up for a job. Since the person was just getting into the job field, there was no way to say “discrimination.”
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These discussions should be happening in families, with the children encouraged to try different interests, but also to complete whatever they begin so they don’t grow up waffling.
In our youth, before the demands of responsibilities, resides opportunities, and discussion might help the youth to find their directions earlier.
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Well said!
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